Best Sex Ever:  Mi Amore

Cardinal Richelieu was rumored to have paid fifty thousand crowns to sleep with her.  She reneged and sent one of her courtesans instead.  Albeit, she kept the money!  Renown in her time, this is none other than the great French courtesan, Ninon de l’Enclos.  In this article we will discover her secret power of lovemaking and why she commanded such a high price for her course.

Ninon slept with whomever she pleased and charged a premium price.  Nevertheless, there was a catch:  she divided her men into two groups—payeurs and martyrs.  The second of these two were men with whom she refused sex, and they were obliged to visit her for friendship and conversation.  Occasionally she would choose from her martyrs a favori, a favorite.  She would devote herself totally to the martyr, and unravel her lovemaking.  After three weeks or so, she would discard the martyr and never sleep with him again.  Her payeurs, on the other hand, would never receive such devotion.

We will now bring exactly what Ninon did into our course and change the lovemaking equation forever.  The author calls this technique Mi Amore. The male will assume the post coital hug position:  his head is resting in the female’s shoulder cleft, his arm is across her body and his top leg is placed atop her near leg.  This position is neutral in scale and has a value of zero and this is an important place to start.  A block of wood, a fallen tree, or even a lifeless stone approximates zero feeling or emotion.

Either the female’s negative space or the male’s active decision begins the upward movement on the value scale.  One, the male kisses her shoulder lightly.  The female attempts to use her flesh to pull the male’s chin down to receive a greater kiss.  Consider the scale moving to a higher position.  Bring more activity into the exercise and increase the breathing to expand the negative space.  Both bodies begin to move in unison and the best word to describe this is passion.  In romance languages the term is Mi Amor, my love.  However, in Latin culture the term has a greater meaning—Mi Amore, sweet heart, my honey, my darling, my everything.

Accordingly and exercising course prerogative, one can place a value system on the above paragraph.  Number one is very little passion, like a one night stand; or nine being a very powerful emotional connection as with a life partner.  The Of Course can be perfunctory and mechanical with little or no emotional involvement.  The person is only displaying technical lovemaking skill.  Nevertheless, the Grand Course brings the emotional value system into play and changes the boundaries forever.

At course three to five the participants must decide how far they will go on the scale written above.  Either they will remain friends and playmates, or they will increase their level of involvement.  If the two decide to ratchet up their involvement then the author has created these three rules:

1. I am under strict obligation
2. I care about you
3. I don’t want to hurt you

Naturally, Ninon understood these three rules.  She managed her system perfectly, and after three weeks she would cut her martyr loose.

I don’t want to get hurt

A true aficionado understands the rules of lovemaking and accepts the consequences.  Sometimes these consequences lead to great emotional pain.  However, the skills and emotional power reside in you and can never be taken away.  The Of Course passes on strength and competence and not fear and apprehension.   Mi Amore is a place you choose to go and it’s the best place to take someone you truly care about.

The great lover, Ninon de l’Enclos, transformed her world, and so can you.